the hard stuff.

                     unfiltered.

This is where I bare it all—the raw, unpolished truth of grief, loss, and the struggle to find my way. Here, I let you into the depths of my heart, sharing the pain, the love, and the moments that have broken me but also shaped me. It’s not always pretty, but it’s real. And in the chaos of it all, I’ve found flickers of peace, love, and life again. This space is for anyone who needs to know they’re not alone in their hardest moments.

I’m So Strong
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I’m So Strong

Hollow, silent, tearful, nauseous, nervous, complete and total decimation of all feelings inside my soul. Who can help me cope with that? No one. Grief and grieving are individual gauntlets, and in those moments I didn’t want to live through anymore gauntlets. Especially not this one.

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Most Likely To Bail Us Out
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Most Likely To Bail Us Out

They are watching you. Waiting for your reaction to every piece of information. Information that will never ever be positive.

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Let’s Just Wing It
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Let’s Just Wing It

We were cheated and robbed of our son. Our son was robbed of his life. Killed by his best friend. In a car crash attributed to alcohol. When you are with the person you trust most in the world, aside from your family, and that person makes choices that have the most extreme consequences, it makes it extremely complicated.

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Now What?
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Now What?

Should I jump right in and say that this world isn’t for me anymore? No. that sounds dark and cryptic, and would most likely be taken the wrong way. But, this world isn’t for me anymore, anyways. You might just understand that, because after all, you’re reading this right?…

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Resources

  • Support Families Through the Martyred Angels Foundation

    Losing a child is an unimaginable pain, and no family should have to navigate that journey alone. Martyred Angels Foundation is here to offer comfort, connection, and resources to those who need it most. Through community support, advocacy, and healing programs, we stand beside grieving families, helping them find strength in the love that remains.

    If you're looking for support, you don’t have to do this alone. Whether you need resources, someone to listen, or a place where your child’s name is always welcome—they are here.

    Learn more, get involved, and help us honor the lives of our angels.

  • "Hollow, silent, tearful, nauseous, nervous, complete and total decimation of all feelings inside my soul. Who can help me cope with that? No one. Grief and grieving are individual gauntlets, and in those moments I didn’t want to live through anymore gauntlets. Especially not this one."

  • "That is my role now. In my second half of life, I pledge that I will love, cherish, embrace, and hold onto anyone who needs to be held on to."

  • "A child of divorce, a daughter of an estranged parent, the daughter of adoption, a daughter of a law enforcement family, a wife of addiction, a step daughter of unusual particularities, a girl mom, a boy mom, the wife of recovery, the proud mom, and a mom of loss. A woman of substantial insecurity, and fragile self esteem who is starting to embrace the things I have always hated about myself. "

  • "So many tears, so many whys asked. So many sleepless nights that have no end and no beginning. "